As of this past Saturday, I have officially discontinued the online dating apps, so am now back to drawing board! HOW will I meet men, now? What is the world of dating without being online?
I actually don’t know what it’s like to date without being online. I never dated as a young girl and got married pretty soon after completing medical school so I’m not familiar with walking into a room and making eye contact with someone or flirting openly. Give me a phone and I can text-flirt like I’m a pro but place a man in front of me and my flirtation skills fly out the window!
It won’t be a bar, since I don’t drink and that pressure to find someone at a bar is way too intense for me.
Dancing-my absolute favorite activity (next to sex, of course)! I would love to find a fellow dancer. Not sure how to get that to happen, though. I’m not in my 20’s so going to a club would be really weird-I’d feel like a Grandma in the room! I could take ballroom dance lessons…that would be fun but will it give me an opportunity to find single men? I would have to make sure it was an open entry for singles and not confined to couples joining. Salsa is way too respectful to be a hook-up situation (as sensual as the dance is).
My friends tell me I have the find the activities that men like to do. WHAT would that be? Men are so varied. It’s not about the gender but about what I like to do and would want to do with him, isn’t it?
Hiking-I’m good at flat surfaces but really don’t like the climbing over rocks that I can either twist my ankle on or fall and I’m terrified of heights. BUT, if I have to learn how to hike for love, sure. I’ll need to wait for Spring/Summer for that, though.
Boxing-I LOVE boxing and when I did that last I was so obsessed with the act of boxing that I didn’t allow myself to make eye contact with anything but the bag. But if I do this again I will have a hard time flirting!
Gym-I have been in a gym for almost one year and can’t flirt there-it’s way too intense when we are all trying to lift weights, run in one place for 5 miles or hold a yoga pose and our locker rooms are separate!!
I am still talking with one of the men I met online (the last man standing). He is someone I would like to find mutually enjoyable activities with (sex was one already-I did not wait and think that waiting all depends on what I am looking for and I how I feel with the man at that time.
So to follow up on my last post-it’s still a work in progress-the question of sex. SO far my answer is there is no right time. BUT, I do see that men behave differently after sex too. It’s not just women. They move away for a small bit-like they can’t handle their emotions, either). I like him a lot. He’s smart, funny, interesting and I see a romantic side but we just met and so far he seems to be very different than me in humor and communication style. In one day I made a joke that apparently was funny but mean and when I flirted he said I was ‘too much’. So, not sure what to make of him, yet.
For now, I am going to keep an open mind-will have to find an activity to find new men and hope this last man standing keeps standing…for me!
Thank you soooo much Nat!!!! I’m loving my journey…it’s the best trip!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Celebrating you celebrating yourself 👏🏼🥳 Love that you’re going more inward with your inquiries. You’re on a wonderful journey 💕💕💕
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