My social experiment of 2020 is working well…so far! 29 days off the dating sites and I’m still here!
The plan to find my twin flame involves doing things I love instead. So, I started off with my most favorite activity-dancing! I didn’t find my life partner (or any romantic partner, for that matter), but I did enjoy myself like there was no tomorrow and in one night I learned how to waltz, fox trot, hustle and swing…totally swept off my feet! It felt like I was flying and it was exactly what I needed!
To me, dancing with another person is a form of negotiation. You become vulnerable, need to communicate with an understanding of body language and recognition that someone will lead and another will follow. Letting go…and it’s all joy!
I remember when I first started salsa dancing. It was 13 years ago, I just got divorced and had a newborn. I was mama bear, all fierce and in control. Nothing and no one was going to stand in my way telling me what to do.
I had survived a marriage where I was made into a victim and upon ending that marriage I decided that would never happen again. Taking up salsa dancing was an unexpected challenge. I started salsa because I absolutely love the music. But, didn’t take into consideration that I would need to share movement with another person and let a man lead!
Boy…was I in for a ride!
One man I was dancing with remarked that I was not letting him lead…and it was frustrating for both of us. We ended up dancing with each other frequently and I started understanding what was in my way…ME! I told him that I thought I was having a hard time letting go of control and giving up my power to him. Salsa became an avenue for me to travel into my soul and heal those wounded parts of me.
It took several years of dancing, compassion for myself and therapy to get to a place where I was able to dance and let another lead. Now I look back and see how much I have grown. So much so, that I danced with a gentleman who led me to learn four partner dances and told me he never danced with a woman who picked up moves so quickly!
Ha! You can teach an old dog new tricks!